19. October 2015 · Comments Off on The top 10 hateful things people have said about my special needs parenting skills · Categories: advocacy, author queries, book status, lists, parent education


This is a completely disingenuous post – my first ever (either here or on my marketing blog).

truth-257158_640Frankly, I am frustrated by the click through rates some bloggers, many “major” publishers, and a lot of minor ones receive with their negative articles and listicles. So, there you go.  A really negative headline. And probably a worthy article, though I would probably recast the title as “The top 10 ways I have overcome negative attitudes about my special needs parenting skills.”

I have actually been actively encouraged by editors to make the headlines controversial and negative to get clicks. And I have heard that essentially the same articles, one cast with a negative headline, and a second one cast with a positive headline, perform differently. Even when the article itself contains essentially the same points.

But, my blog, and my book (at least 99% of it) are positive, or at least built upon a positive attitude after not-so-positive things happen. I invite you to visit my project’s main page at http://dadsofdisability.com/ to read extended free excerpts and reviews.

I hope you can get over my mistruth to get you to my page.  It really isn’t right, and I am sorry if you feel offended.

Instead, support articles, essays, and books with a positive spin.  Positive doesn’t mean rose-colored glasses, happy-assed, no bad news.  But don’t choose manufactured controversy either.


Gary gdietz@garydietz.com


The DaDads of Disability book coverds of Disability™ book project addresses the relative scarcity of stories from and about the perspective of fathers whose children experience a disability. The book is for dads, moms, grandparents, specialists (speech, OT, PT, teachers) and more.

You can learn more about how to buy it by CLICKING HERE.

There is nothing negative in it, at least as I intended it.


I posted the final free selection of essays and poems from the book. This is free for download. (Final update 11-March-2014.)

Photo by Jenni C/ Flickr

Much excitement!  Cool, huh?

If you like the sample, please share this link on your Facebook page (see the do-hickey below). And, please like and participate on the project’s Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/DadsofDisability

Onward and upward to May 2014 publication — or earlier!




The Dads of Disability project received its first press coverage today in the Poughkeepsie Journal (New York)! Here is a link to that story (or click on the image to the left).

In addition, to exemplify one of the kind of essays that will appear in the book, you can download a free preview draft.

In this essay, the simple act of going to the bathroom on a plane creates a situation where a father has to mull some important stuff.  When to interact with a pleasant, but challenging stranger? Are his religious beliefs correct? Should he be embarrassed at the amount of help he needs from strangers to do something as simple as take his child to the bathroom? Is a cross country trip worth the effort? Will he encounter an awful situation like he read about in the press?

The example story has a a religious topic as part of its theme, please note that this collection will by no means be a collection of religious or spiritual essays. I just thought it was a good example of taking an event that really took place over about 10 minutes but illustrated a deeper set of issues that a father wrestled with.


15. July 2013 · Comments Off on Why Specialists Should Support Dads of Disability · Categories: author queries, kickstarter, parent education, poetry, Uncategorized

Hello and I hope your summer is going well,

I’ve asked my friends and supporters to send you to this page to learn about the Dads of Disability project and consider supporting it or participating in it.

When I visit the offices of many of  his educators and medical and support specialists — I see a stack of academic and professional and mainstream press books about children and families.  But rarely do I see one specifically about fathers and children with disabilities (except a few in the style of the heroic stories like the Hoyts.)  I am trying to change that by writing a book called Dads of Disability:  Stories for, by, and about fathers of children that experience disability (and the mothers that love them)

I have a request and an opportunity for you or your your staff and professional network:

1. Please back this project as soon as possible through my Kickstarter at this address. If you don’t know what a Kickstarter is I have info here.  This isn’t a donation or charity – rewards are received for early backing of the project and such as copies of the book and other project related content.


I am specifically asking you to back the project for $119 – in return for which you will get the reward of  nine paper copies of the book for you and your friends or staff when it ships in March 2014. 

If that is too much, other rewards range from the ebook for $9 to other book-related content from $19 and up. I ask that you can either personally back this project or back it through professional development or content funds and can account for this backing as a “book pre-order” (the book will ship in March 2014) for your personal or staff development library. (Your credit card will only be charged by my the Kickstarter project through Amazon if the entire funding goal is met by August 9th.)

2. Please learn more about this project at www.dadsofdisability.com and let Dads or Moms or staff you may know that I am seeking contributing parent, student, and educational professional essayists and I am paying stipends for those that appear in the book.

Quill Pen, Creative Commons 0 license

Even if you don’t back the project, please look at the site for a COOL animation done by a high school senior. Or consider forwarding this note to other educators or sharing it on FB and other social media regarding both writing and backing.

If you have any questions please contact me at gdietz@garydietz.com. Thanks for all you do for our children and families!

Gary Dietz

The Kickstarter for the Dads of Disability book project is live! Click on the image below to check it out. If you do nothing else, enjoy the animation! The Kickstarter page tells you a lot about the project, but you can also click on the menus above on this page to learn more.

I’m asking for three things.  Each of which has a benefit to you or your family or clients.

One: Back the Dads of Disability Kickstarter!
How does this benefit you?  Backing starts at just $9.00 and at this level the reward is an electronic version of the book when it is released. $19 gets you the paper copy AND the electronic copy. This isn’t charity, rewards come with backing!  Higher value rewards include original framed art from the animation and a 60 second animation of your family!

Two: Write for this collection, get paid
Yes, I will pay you.  I am paying small stipends for authors whose work (or interviewees whose story) makes it into the collection. Learn more about that in the submission guidelines.

Three: Please share this project far and wide!
For suggestions and materials if you feel like sharing on social networks, please see the open letter from me.  Tweet with hashtag #dadsofdis  I am @garymdietz on Twitter.

Thanks for all of your support!!!


21. June 2013 · Comments Off on Poetry Contest · Categories: author queries, poetry


Poet and author Marly Youmans has agreed to judge a poetry contest for my upcoming book.

You can learn more about the contest on this page. The goal is to have a number of poems to compliment the essays in the book.  Have a look at the poetry contest page and the essay submission guidelines and project FAQ to learn more about the themes we are looking for.



03. June 2013 · Comments Off on Searching for contributor Dads and men has commenced · Categories: author queries, kickstarter


I’m actively talking to some potential contributors of essays and materials.

Not just by Dads: One thing I need to clarify in the Submit a Story section is that while stories may be by Dads, they just a likely could be by:

  • Moms talking about the Dads of their children
  • Grandfathers, uncles, brothers, siblings, steps, etc. talking about the family relationships surround the father and child with a disability from their perspective
  • The child him or herself!  Just because the child has a disability doesn’t mean that they don’t have a story about their father
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Image: Creative Commons License  (attribution here)

Not just happy: In addition, the stories don’t all have to be happy.  They can be sad, angry, challenging, frustrating, or yes, happy,  But they need to be authentic and surrounding the male perspective.

Two things am really looking for are:

  • Unusual and compelling
  • Has a usable lesson for other dads or family members at one of the “pivot” points in the life of a family that has a child with a disability.  (Birth, diagnosis, first hospitalization, entering school, leaving school, first job, first date, etc. all the way through life.)

Thanks!  And keep an eye out for the animation and Kickstarter, that should be live by early July 2013!



28. May 2013 · Comments Off on Dads of Disability: Storyboard, contributor, awareness progress! · Categories: animation, author queries, kickstarter


I am thrilled to report that Casey, the talented soon-to-be-high-school-graduate who is animating the kickstarter video for Dads of Disability, has sent me her storyboard!  And it is great!  It really captures the story I was trying to tell possible backers/readers and is very fun and moving.  Here’s a panel from the storyboard (this is NOT the final art – just a panel from the storyboard)


Also, some of my new (and established) friends in the genetics community have been telling their peers and clients about my project.  Thanks to you, and new visitors sent my way because of them.

Finally, I have been contacting — through email, phone, and social media — some potential father authors.  I am absolutely floored by the level of response to the project.  Not only do these Dads want to share their stories, they want to read the stories of the other dads.  RIGHT NOW!  Even though the book is just underway.

Signs of good things to come!

Be sure to have a look at the About / FAQ / and Submit a Story menus on this page.  And share with the social media buttons or email this site to Fathers who may want to contribute!